Find Your Tribe
by Gabi Anderson Courtney
I definitely have two distinct group of friends. The ones I became friends with before I turned 30 and the ones I met after 40. My oldest friend is Krisztina. We met when we were 10 and we still keep in touch. Last time we were having dinner, she just got the call that her daughter went into labour. The next day she became a grandmother.
I was lucky that in high school we all stuck together and most of us still keep in touch. And then, I made a lot of friends in my twenties all over the world while travelling. Most of them are still part of my life, even though we don't see each other often. Grateful for social media, so we can keep in touch and follow what's happening in each other's lives.
Making friends after 40 is somewhat different, but definitely not harder. You just need to be open and willing to have fun. Sometimes it is that fun that brings you together. You need to accept that we are all different. Some of my closest friends have very different view of the world than I do, but we have never let it being an obstacle. One of my friends is on the exact opposite side when it comes to our political views. We often joke about who is going to turn who, but not at any stage it has been an issue. Another one of my closest friend has made a conscious decision with her husband not to have children. I couldn't imagine my life without my daughter. Still, it has never stopped us being friends.
Finding your tribe is not about finding people who are the same as you. It's about accepting people for who they are, and having fun along the way.